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- a new way to be human
I heard Robert speak at St. Paul’s episcopal church in NC and could not afford the book but someone lent it to me from my congregation and I read it in a day. I could not put it down. He validated for me ” new born” feasting” and “Just showing up and being there to let people know that you care. I lead a men’s prayer recovery group which I am not an heroine addict which is what the group consists of and I really don’t know what I am doing as I have had not teachings in. I am currently waiting for a “Peer support specialists program to start here in Wilmington, N.C. which will give me state certification to be able to deal with bi-polar and manic depressed w/ suicidal tendencies as I am familiar and diagnosed as. I want to get into the hospitals and help those who suffer as I have and be able to testify to Our Father’s healing powers of love. I hope this gets to Robert as I too am a gay man and Episcopal and want to tell him how his book has shown me not to give up on the recovery group as I had planned. I am in debt to him for the discoveries I made about myself and the direction I will continue to go. Thank you Robert and God Bless you which I can tell that he already has. Sincerely, Earl Craig.
- Thank you!
Thank you so much, Robert, for writing the book! My friend and I have been meeting every week, talking about each chapter. In other words, we have been “feasting.” The talks generated from your book have helped us to understand ourselves better, what we want to do with our lives, and how we want to treat other people–as well as ourselves. These talks have also given us the opportunity to become better friends. It’s been an extraordinary experience, and I recommend everyone to read the book with a friend or friends, discuss the book over a good meal, and allow the personal growth to take place. Much thanks, Patrick Range McDonald, West Hollywood, California
- Acceptance and Rejection
Robert Taylor has written a new book entitled A New Way To Be Human: 7 Spiritual Pathways To Becoming Fully Alive. For me, the key word in the title is spiritual.
Spiritual suggests an inner path that leads to discovery of new beliefs and values through practices of contemplation, meditation and prayer. Inspirations realized are heartfelt and believable. They are our personal truths and allow us to become our authentic, true selves.
Starting from a premise that there are, and never will be, any perfect human beings, becoming “a new human” is the work of letting go what is no longer needed and visualizing life lived in a new way.
The first task of living a new life is self acceptance, which includes all of life’s hurts and all of life’s joys. When we accept ourselves in this way we finally realize we are loved just as we are. Our pain is God’s pain. Our joys are God’s joys. We need to love all of it, just as God does.
The second great task is to accept and love others. There are others who are lovable and easy to love as well as those who are not. God wants to love the unlovable through each one of us. Life is difficult, and loving the unlovable is some of the most challenging work we will ever do.
Life is about acceptance or rejection, inclusion or exclusion. When we feel accepted and included we feel loved. When we are excluded or rejected we feel isolated and unworthy.
How many people in your life do you accept and include? What are these relationships like for you and the other? How many people do you reject or exclude for whatever reason? What are these relationships like?
Robin Meyers says, “faith is an orientation to the mystery of love.” Of the people you now exclude or reject, how many are you willing to see with new eyes? This is the work of becoming “a new human.” From Sky
- My House
More than half my life ago, our family moved into a1802 Greek Revival house in a New England town. We could meet the terms of the mortgage as the once elegant 10 room structure with connecting workshops and big barn had been long neglected. I was more excited about living there than our two pre-school youngsters were in being released from apartment living in New York City. My mother and I had never owned a house. We had rented rooms in boarding houses, lived with family, rented rooms from friends, and eventually by the time i was 10 years old, we rented a modest small apartment. In the big house we worked steadily painting, repairing, and restoring–all of it by hand. Owning a big and handsome home assured me that I had gained security, and I was surprised that our purchase also pushed us up the social status ladder. And then, four years later we decided to take on new opportunities. The house sold readily for twice what we had paid, and we moved on.
I did not let go of the house, however. During the day I thought of it. At night I dreamed of it. Even when the children were in high school and college, I saw them as little ones delighting in their big play space and dreamed of me choosing paint and fabric and deciding what project to take on next. The pang I had felt upon leaving the house continued to haunt me until recently. In the middle of the night I sat up in bed with a start. I had been dreaming of the house. But curiously, the pang was gone. Why? Where was that sorrow that wrapped itself around me for so many years? For a few days I went about the motions of my life feeling the loss until I received the answer. I had become the house. I am secure. I am safe. Others view me as an accomplished person. I no longer need the house, nor have I dreamed of it since.
One of the hardest things in life is to leave ourselves open to vulnerability. Without experience of doing so I am cut off from a tapestry of life’s different colors, shapes and forms, most especially to change our mindset to try something new.
When I read A New Way to be Human, I had already surmised that Robert Taylor would have some difficulty with this for a variety of reasons, and from personal life experiences. I was elated to see this talented and gifted man evolve into mental and emotional freedom. One of his revelations in this book is his initial instinct to invite homeless folk from Tent City. His first reaction was that there was no way we could accommodate a group of homeless fellow humans living in our parking lot for a month. Robert subsequently changed his mind, and the invitation was issued, despite the wealthy surrounding community being very concerned that “those people will create this or that”. It takes courage to admit your wrong conclusions. The point of this story referred to in the middle of this slim but significant book, is that the author totally changed his mind, listened to a wise friends, and invited and met some wonderful and inspiring folk who just happened to be homeless for a variety of reasons. We are reminded in this story that change is often uncomfortable. It can radically affect how we think about our fellow humans. We need to try new ways of looking at how instead of judging, we can accept needy people where they are in their life and encouraging them. If one can glean just that story from A New Way to be Human, then we have gleaned a new way of looking at present lives, from the homeless to ourselves. What is particularly striking, the author has learned right along with us, and is the better for it. I highly commend this book to anyone who would like to learn about courage to be different, and the ability to be more compassionate and human. Patricia